Wk 13.2 Attraction: Who I Notice and Who I Don't

We all have certain lens that we look through to determine what things are to us, which includes who are the people I notice, and how and which people are appealing or unappealing. For me, I usually judge people by their superficial attractiveness, friendly demeanor, polite behaviors and level of more easy-going presence, which clearly indicates who I find attractive and so the characteristics and behaviors that I find unattractive include rude back-talking and snide remarks, a seemingly inability to talk, cold and unfriendly mannerisms/behavioral tendencies.

Duck’s Filtering Theory makes sense to me, because typically we tend to make judgments of people based on what we see, whether it is their looks and appearance, the behaviors that they exhibit, or what others may say about them. One tends to take notice of people that they see enough to think that those others look familiar. So after one takes notice of those people, one tends to gradually look deeper at those people, finding people

Along the lines of Duck’s theory, I have eliminated people using a sociological/pre-interaction cue before I reconsidered them based on interaction and cognitive cues, since it seems easier to talk with people who look familiar and appear to be people that I would be able to talk with. However, within my experiences and understanding, appearances are deceiving since appearance is not everything and that there are so many people within our society that one has not noticed or met. People that I thought that I would not be able to hold a relationship became my friends. One cannot judge a person by how they appear to you, one can only judge after getting to know a person.